Right before we were leaving for our trip to North Carolina, at around 3am, I was checking out the blogs and local blogger Chicken and Cheese was the last one I read. I was reading this entry when Rob woke up and reminded me we needed to get going. Although I don't know her, I haven't been able to get her out of my head. I was hoping all was going well with her pregnancy and sending wonderful birthing vibes out to her.
Today, Stephanie (my sister-in-law) received news that her brother's wife is at the hospital in labor with their first child. We haven't heard any news of a birth yet. Birthing is very much on my mind and I'm hoping she had a great birth and they welcome their little boy into the world very soon!
I love being pregnant so much and love giving birth, I thought for a while about being a doula. The doula we had at Parker's birth has asked me more than once about training to be a doula. I've attended several friend's births, but in the end I think it is just too much pressure. Birth is such a unique and personal experience and there is just so much tied up in it all. I am a birth junkie and love to hear birth stories and love to be at births, but it would also be a juggling act with young children of my own. It is hard for me when I hear of things like Chicken and Cheese described to not get very angry with the way pregnancy and birth is treated in our society and wish I could be there as an advocate. It just doesn't have to be this way...there is another way.
I'm not naive and I don't think homebirth is the answer to all the issues and I don't think homebirth is for everyone, but I still hold my breath when I hear about someone going to the hospital to give birth in a way I don't when I hear of them starting labor at home. I just wish there was more respect given to pregnant/birthing women. I respect OBs and midwives of all flavors, but quite often I don't see the respect of the patient. There needs to be more respect in health care period. I'm sure there are many reasons and we can talk about insurance and all sorts of things which all go into the mix.
At the end of the discussion, I just know things can not and should continue as they currently are and things need to and will change.
I just hope everyone giving birth today or going into labor soon has the best experience possible.